As if being a woman in the workplace wasn’t hard enough what with pay inequality, sexual harassment and just general bread-and-butter sexism trying to just get a job has its own unique and horrible patriarchal hurdles.
Those hurdles have, of course, always been there, but now an executive recruiter is openly admitting it.
The essay is literally titled: When interviewing for a job, lose the ring!
This is the most depressing and tone-deaf use of an exclamation point since I told a baby eating ice cream that my lactose intolerance makes ice cream transform immediately into diarrhea! No matter the flavor!
In the essay, Hurwitz told the story of meeting a woman who had been going on a lot of interviews, but wasn’t getting any offers.
He suggested she lose the rock! (By the way, rock is a cute term for diamond that, occasionally, will be used by a sexist bottom-feeder while belittling a woman who is searching for financial stability).
She asked him why, and he wrote that this was his response:
When a man sees that ring he immediately assumes you are high maintenance.
He also said he added,
When the woman at the office who has the largest diamond on her finger, sees that ring, she will realize that if you are hired she will fall to second place and will, therefore, not like you. Lose the ring!
Clearly, Bruce understands women extremely well. But, his understanding of women is nothing compared to his spectacular understanding of men:
And, if you don’t have [a ring], but got engaged by signing a pre-nup, find a way to let male interviewers know that. Theyll respect you.
It seems, at least to me, in that statement he is simply using the phrases male interviewers and they as a substitutes for me and I.
It also seems these are all the sexist assumptions he would make. Whether or not they hold true for other misogynists in the workplace, who can say?
But, the fact Bruce said all thisso proudly speaks volumes, at least,regarding his own outdated mindset.
He, unsurprisingly, got a lot of hate in the comments for the article, where some people called his views ridiculous and archaic.
So, the recruiter decided to double down on his position with another article, entitled What Jewelry Not to Wear to a Job Interview, where he pretty much just made his hole 10 feet deeper.