All That Glitters: Why A Ring Is The Least Important Part Of A Marriage

So, one day, my boyfriend and I were conversing about engagement rings.

I turned to him and said, I dont want you spending any more than $5,000 on a ring.

He was shocked and delighted that I wanted a ring at that price.

He then said, Wow. I thought you were going to go much higher than that.

Now, stop right there.

Why cant he buy me a classy ring that only costs $5,000? Why does it have to cost an arm and a leg, as well as half his salary?

Is he trying to please and appease me?

I mean, if were on our way to getting engaged, doesnt that mean hes sealed the deal with me already?

To me, a wedding ring should be elegant, shiny and sparkly. But most importantly, it should come from the heart.

You see, as we all know, men arent too good at picking out jewelry. So if and when he does, hes really trying his best.

If youre going to complain about the price or how it looks, youre crushing him (even though hell never admit it).

Why would I want to go any higher than that?

Does an expensive ringmean he loves me more or something?

So the men who buy their women rings that cost $20,000 and up love them more than my boyfriend loves me?

Thats absolutely incorrect.

To the woman who says, Yes, I feel sorry for you.

I feel bad for you because youre materialistic and think high-priced items equal love.

What about the men who treat their women like royalty in every other way?

They wine and dine them, randomly buy them flowers, support them and listen when they’re having a meltdown.

Oh. Maybe none of that matters.

My boyfriend’ssisters husband spent $20,000 on a ring he bought online. He never saw it until it came in the mail.

Yes, you heard me correctly. This is $20,000 on a ring she merely wears on her finger.

What has our world come to? Rings are now status symbols in the same way cars are for men.

You see celebrities wearing huge diamonds all the time to showcase their “love for one another.

Lets face this unfortunate fact: Most celebrities end up divorced these days, so that ring is nothing but a piece of jewelry.

At the end of the day, does that ring make you money? Does it buy you happiness?

No? So whats the point of a huge wedding ring?

These are the reasonsI think women have become obsessed with big rings:

1. It shows your dude has money.

If your man has money, you have security. You will feel safe for the rest of your life.

I totally get wanting security. Im not bashing that one bit.

But have you ever thought about the fact that your man wants to spend less on a ring and more on the actual wedding or saving up for a family?

Hes a smart dude in my book.


2. Diamonds are a girls best friend.

The bigger the diamond, the happier the women.

When most women see a diamond, their eyes light up.

So its no surprise that when they receive a huge rock, they become the happiest girls in the world.


3. It proves theyre loved.

A womancould be thinking that when her man buys a huge diamond ring, he must love her an awful lot.

Some of the time, its because he does love her. But other times, it could be because shes begged him for one, and he finally caved.

Regardless of the reason, your man should never buy you something just because he feels guilty.

Later on, he might even resent you.


So men, take your time and be mindful of your wallet.

If youre with a woman who cares more about the size of her ring than she cares about you, you may want to re-think spending the rest of your life with her.

Women: Please stop focusing on materialistic things, and concentrate more on planning for your future.

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