Though today we know there is no hard and fast rule for what exactly makes a woman“ladylike” (orhowever else you’d describe a female acting “properly” in public), that definitely wasn’t the case for women in the Victorian era.
Obviously, every culture has itsown set ofrules that everyonemust follow in order to remain polite and kind regardless of whether they’re at a fancy dinner party or simply hanging out with their friends. Women, however, had a much stricter set of guidelines that varied throughout history until finally finding a way to break free from such absurdly high expectations.
You could definitely argue that those living in the 1800s during Queen Victoria’s reign had it worst of all. Guidelines described in bookslikeA Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies, authored by “an American Lady,” and Charles Varle’sMoral Encyclopaedia, detailed exactly how every female should carry herself in order to be considered a “lady.”
Take a look at some of the examples from those guides below and let us know if we missed any of the more ridiculous rules you’ve heard about from back in the day.
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1. Go Easy On The Shine
“Never wear mosaic gold or paste diamonds; they are representatives of a mean ambition to appear what you are not, and most likely what you ought not to wish to be.” A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
2. Keep Your Nails Tidy
“Keep your fingernails scrupulously clean, and avoid the disagreeable habit of allowing them to grow to an unnatural length.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
3. Pipe Down
“It is better to say too little than too much in company: let your conversation be consistent with your sex and age.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
4. Don’t Venture Far From Home
“Be not too often seen in public.” Moral Encyclopaedia
5. Keep It Simple
“Fondness for finery shows as bad a taste, as neatness and simplicity imply a good one.” Moral Encyclopaedia
6. Avoid Dirty Jokes
“Double entendre is detestable in a woman, especially when perpetrated in the presence of men; no man of taste can respect a woman who is guilty of it.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
7. Wait For A Man To Make The First Move
“Let not love begin on your part.” Moral Encyclopaedia
8. Skip Frivolous Fictional Entertainment
“Read no novels, but let your study be History, Geography, Biography and other instructive books.” Moral Encyclopaedia
9. Don’t Talk About Yourself
“Never introduce your own affairs for the amusement of the company; such discussions cannot be interesting to others, and the probability is that the most patient listener is laying the foundation for some tale to make you appear ridiculous.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
10. Skip The Handwear
“Ladies do not wear gloves during dinner.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
11. Don’t Be A Literal Diva
“Never sing more than one or two songs consecutively.”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
12. Never Admit Guilt
“If at anothers house you should break anything, do not appear to notice it. Your hostess, if a lady, would take no notice of the calamity, nor say, as is sometimes done by ill-bred persons, ‘Oh! It is of no consequence.’”A Hand-Book of Etiquette for Ladies
13. Avoid Friends
“Trust no female acquaintance, i.e., make no confidant of any one.” Moral Encyclopaedia
Did we miss anyother major rules you’ve heard about from back in the day for being seen as a “lady”? Let us know below, and be sure to SHARE with your friends!
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